Call to Action

As sexual assault, abuse, harassment continue to dominate our news feeds, more and more men are asking “What can I do?”

At our 2016 Call to Action event we released our “11 Things Men Can Do” poster series.  These posters are available for free download on our website in both English & Spanish — and under each poster are videos that dig deeper into the issues & solutions.  

11 Things Men Can Do

Free Poster Download – English

Free Poster Download – Spanish

At this year’s Call to Action event we released a ‘zine to complement the “11 Things” poster series – offering over 40 smaller, day-to-day actions we can take to help end sexual assault, domestic violence, and sexism. 


  1. educate yourself about the Man Box and Healthy Manhood at watch videos, read the blog, read posters, take the White Ribbon Pledge
  2. connect with Christine Ann Domestic Abuse Services, Harbor House, Reach, Sexual Assault Crisis Center, and Voices of Men on Facebook and get on their email lists
  3. donate money, supplies, or time at the local sexual assault and domestic violence agencies
  4. hang up Voices of Men posters around town
  5. join the Friends Team – email skenevan@goodwillncw.orgfor info
  6. practice key habits of being an effective ally: break out of the Man Box; learn about privilege; listen to and learn from women; speak up, not over; acknowledge and learn from mistakes; and take action 24/7
  7. attend annual fundraisers in support of our four local sexual assault and domestic violence agencies
  8. bring your car to Jumpstart Auto Repair to support Christine Ann Domestic Abuse Services, Harbor House & their clients: 
  9. educate yourself on issues of gender based inequality, income inequality, etc.
  10. support women-owned businesses
  11. interrupt sexist comments and jokes
  12. when speaking about sexual assault & domestic violence, don’t victim blame, don’t excuse the perpetrator
  13. never ogle/leer at women or make disrespectful comments about their bodies
  14. if you are a man married to a woman, be aware of the %of the housework, parenting, and emotional support for friends/family that you do
  15. practice affirmative consent – consent only with a willing, sober, and enthusiastic yes
  16. during meetings with people of varying genders, notice who is in the room (have women been invited?), who is talking, and who’s being listened to
  17. listen to and follow the leadership of women and never talk down-to women
  18. listen to women sharing their experiences regarding safety, cat-calling, etc. and believe their experiences
  19. ask women in your life “what can I do better?”
  20. think about what is defined as “women’s work” in the school and workplace, ask why this is considered “women’s work,” and be willing to do “women’s work”
  21. validate women’s emotions and avoid saying things like “she’s too emotional”, or “she must be on her period”
  22. don’t call women “girls” if you are not also calling men “boys”
  23. never use “throwing like a girl”, “acting like a girl”, or “that’s so gay” as an insult
  24. let a boy cry – support him, tell him it’s okay to cry
  25. encourage boys to: have a full range of emotions; be willing to ask for help; be vulnerable; be gentle and nurturing
  26. challenge gender stereotyping of kids by letting girls & boys choose whatever toys/clothes/colors they like
  27. make sure the boys in your life have role models of men living outside the “Man Box”
  28. ensure that you and your kids have women heroes/role models
  29. be willing to ask for help and be vulnerable, gentle, and nurturing
  30. in age-appropriate ways, talk to children about sexual assault/domestic violence/sexism
  31. teach your children about consent – no means no and only a yes means yes
  32. accompany and support women and children in times and places where they feel unsafe
  33. learn about feminism/identify as a feminist
  34. talk about sexual assault and domestic violence as “men’s issues/human issues”, and not as “women’s issues”
  35. be willing to do anti-sexism/anti-violence work without recognition
  36. ask our local sexual assault/domestic violence agencies (or Voices of Men) to present at your school, church, workplace, etc.
  37. things to say to someone who was abused:  it’s not your fault; I want you to be safe; you don’t deserve this; I’m glad you told me; thank you for trusting me; I’m here if you need me; how can I help
  38. drop these words from usage: man up; bro’s before hoes; grow a pair; don’t be a wuss; that’s so gay; quit crying; nice rack; lost your man card
  39. learn about sexism and how it intersects with other forms of oppression such as racism, homophobia, transphobia, classism, able-ism…
  40. listen to/support women’s voices in media and culture (musicians, authors, artists, movie directors…)
  41. never police the appearance of women
  42. have women as friends in your life

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