The Voice(Our Blog)

A time for accountability

Joint post by Christine Anne Domestic Abuse Services, Harbor House Domestic Abuse Services, Reach Counseling Services, Sexual Assault Crisis Center and Voices of Men. We are voices in support of survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence in the Fox Valley. On Aug. 14, 2018, Shannon Kenevan was forced to resign as the community engagement […]

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Some Thoughts on Toxic Masculinity

When I do community presentations, I’ll often ask a hypothetical question: “Imagine I just got a text alert saying there was a school shooting in Arizona. Tell me the gender of the shooter.” Invariably everyone says male. I’ll often pause a bit and let that sink in a bit — they all “knew” this hypothetical […]

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Call to Action

As sexual assault, abuse, harassment continue to dominate our news feeds, more and more men are asking “What can I do?” At our 2016 Call to Action event we released our “11 Things Men Can Do” poster series.  These posters are available for free download on our website in both English & Spanish — and […]

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Words Matter

When trying to end violence and oppression and create a world where all people are treated with dignity, words matter. And it’s not just the words we say directly to someone’s face, as this video makes clear. (Warning: harsh & degrading language, rape threats, other threats of violence.) Our words can be violent.  As said […]

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Manbox Culture & Healthy Manhood

So what is Manbox culture?  If you’ve ever heard phrases like “act like a man”, “man up”, “bros before hoes”, “real men don’t cry”, “you’re throwing like a girl” then you know Manbox culture. It’s the part of our culture that raises boys and men to believe that: The only emotion that “real men” can have […]

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LISTENING TO WOMEN

“A time to listen, a time to speak” As shared at our last Breakfast, one of the first and most important things we can do as men to help end sexual assault & domestic violence is … listen to women.   Listen to when they feel safe and when they don’t; listen to their fears, frustrations, […]

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